Hi, my name is Jenna and I am a People Pleaser. I don’t mean this in a good way, I mean this in a way that I have let other people dictate my life and my happiness because their happiness and approval mattered more to me, or more than mine or my family’s happiness. I mean this in a way that it has caused me to miss out on God’s purposes, blessings, or gifts for me when I was trying to meet everyone else’s expectations.
There is nothing wrong with wanting to please others. God wants us to serve and love others. God does not call us to put others before Him.
Something else that people pleasing has done for me is kept me from growing in my faith. I was worried about seeking others’ approval, not God’s approval. I did things for selfish reasons, not to get an “aata girl!” from God. Who do I trust more? Who matters most? I need to seek his approval above all else.
People pleasing has led me to hypocrisy. I hate to admit this, but I used to wear masks. Smiling, everything is A-Ok, I have all my stuff together, my life is perfect, my home is perfect, my kids are perfect, I am perfect…even my marriage is perfect. Awhile back, Brandon and I were having some struggles, we kept this to ourselves but when I reached out to family, they were absolutely shocked and said “how can that be? Your Facebook looks happy. We don’t believe this.” Please know, Brandon and I have a great marriage and we are very happy, but it is real life. Nothing is perfect in real life. We have our struggles. That conversation was a HUGE wakeup call for me. I would never want someone to feel like I have it all together, have a perfect life, or never have struggles.
Wearing a mask of perfection takes away from my integrity. Integrity is more important than popularity. Thankfully God knows my heart. When we wear masks, we fake it. It silences my witness. The desire to fit in leaves us silent. Who around me would hear about Jesus if I wasn’t afraid of what others thought?
If you are still with me, thank you for reading as I just dumped my heart and faults out. On November 8th I will be back to talk about how I have broken the people pleasing in myself. I hope you come back for part 2. Thank you for reading! Are you a people pleaser? Can you relate?