Raising arrows. Our greatest calling and purpose from God as parents. Psalm 127:3-5 has been on my heart all week. I want to raise my kids to love God and fulfill his purpose for them.
This Psalm talks about how children are gifts from the Lord. So often people can look at children and see “annoying little crumb grabbers” or emotional tweens filled with angst and become impatient or quickly irritated. We can learn so much from children. Their gentle spirits, how quickly they forgive, their deep and inquisitive thinking, how they speak from the heart, honesty, love and compassion to name a few great qualities. We should see kids for what they are, a gift and a promise of our future.
Raising arrows is no joke. It is hard and often at the end of the day you can find yourself drained of emotion because your daughter cried all morning because “orange is not her color” and your son slipped and fell in the kitchen doing a break dance move that you told him was to dangerous to do in the first place.
Thursday nights at our house are not the best nights of the week. In fact, they are usually not that great…and saying they are even “ok” can be stretching it sometimes. We are exhausted from the week, we still have one more school day to go, the house is usually tore up from the floor up because no one wants to pick anything up at that point, and did I say my kids are exhausted? They are. We now lovingly call them “Hot Mess Thursdays” because we know they are rough. We know that we don’t feel our best and we know that we might see some tears. So instead of getting stressed out and angry at the kids for their less than stellar attittudes, Brandon and I have learned to embrace Hot Mess Thursdays. We eat a laid back dinner, we usually play a game and we watch more TV than we should as a family. The house doesn’t get picked up, in fact we might eat on paper plates so we don’t have to start the dishwasher. The fact is, my little gifts from God really need this time and instead of getting angry and finding fault I love them even harder on those nights.
Kids need to be celebrated and loved. Kids need to know how important they are and that they matter. As parents, we reap what we sow. We always harvest in a different season than we plant. If we want to harvest patience and love from our children in the future than we need to sow seeds of patience and love for them now. If we want our kids to know how special and wonderfully made they are we need to embrace them in their less than perfect conditions and attitudes and we need to love them hard when they are at their hardest to love. We need to show them that love never gives up. That they are our greatest gifts and they are our treasures. My prayer for you is when you hit a point this week where you think “did you just roll your eyes at me?! So help me child” that you remember that children are the greatest blessing. They are our future and we need to be pouring love into them.
Happy Hot Mess Thursday!